Hey girl heyyy! I am so excited to share the first video of my new series! This series is all about connecting, reflecting, and encouraging one another. Where we talk about life, love, career, you name it!
This series has been on my heart and my mind for a while now. But I knew that I had to go through certain life experiences and really gain confidence in myself in order to not only share my own trials and triumphs but also in order to be in a good space to help others.
The first topic of my new “Hey girl hey” series is “no, you’re not asking for too much”. I wanted to begin the series with this because far too often I see this and I’ve experienced this myself, where something you need in a relationship can’t be given and you begin to think well “is it too much to ask”? I say no, it’s not “too much” to ask for clear communication, consistent behavior, ultimately to get clarity on the connection, so you can firmly know where things stand? This goes for friendships and relationships even.
In my video, I talk about the importance of the 3 C’s! Communication, consistency, and clarity!
How to communicate clearly: BE SPECIFIC. Communication can make or break a relationship. The more open and connected the dialogue, the healthier a relationship tends to be. Take responsibility. You are in control of the way you communicate with others. Make a conscious effort to be detailed and clear about what you’re saying and what message you’re wanting to get across.
Don’t settle: If you like to talk out your problems while another is very reserved and doesn’t like to do that you may begin to feel the imbalance and worry. It’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that the other person should know what you need-– that if they really loved you and knew you, they would just naturally do it. Instead of seeing what you asked for as less valuable, really look at the situation and say ok “someone who is able to clearly communicate rather than hold things in, is important, so I will not settle or assume that this characteristic will just “appear”.
Cause it wont sis. (shrug emoji)
It’s ok to speak different “love languages”. The issue comes when the other person is so fixed in their “language” that they’re not willing to learn or understand yours.
Like I said in my video, if someone shows you that they’re not capable of meeting your needs , you have to be secure enough to walk away. Granted some people can listen, learn, and change. But 9 times out of 10 it’s in your best interest to accept what’s real sis and do what’s best for you.
That shows maturity, when you realize what you want, you know what you deserve, and you can remain firm in that, while being able to accept the differences at a distance.
Comment below. What do you think about the 3 C’s?